Less Hair, More Face
Many women sit in my chair for the first time hoping I can help them cover what they see as their flaws. They bring photos of the pretty hair and pretty faces of others, but their focus when we are looking in the mirror is on minimizing themselves. My hope is that by the end of the appointment, they think in terms of emphasis.
The second tenet of my philosophy is that hairdressing isn't really about hair.
It's about eyes.
Believe it or not, other people want to see you. They aren't looking for flaws; they are looking for integrity. They are hoping your actions and words align with your body language and your style. They are seeking your eyes to determine whether you can be trusted, and if you are going to be interesting. If your cut, color and style all accentuate your cheekbones, and if weight lines and color placement act like arrows to your eyes, it's a lot easier to appear open and approachable - and a lot easier for people to respond to you positively. If your look is unflattering or overpowers your features, what people will notice and think about is your hair, not you. Even if your hair is beautifully styled, when it overtakes your face, people will not feel fully at ease in your presence.
I recently visited "Eye Pop: The Celebrity Gaze" at the National Portrait Gallery. This exhibit struck me as being all about the humanizing effect of eye contact (and therefore, powerful facial framing.) I could have spent hours staring into the eyes of these celebrities because each artist captured something unique and honest about his or her subject. Stylists should design like these artists - not just appraising someone's face shape and coloring in a clinical way, but to bring out the true person.
.A hairdresser has a much different job than a painter or a photographer, though. Our canvas moves and grows and is attached to someone physically and emotionally. Such high stakes!
This is why the consultation is everything. A thorough consultation
You know what my pet peeves are in architecture? Extraneous embellishment. Shutters that have no intention of covering windows, pillars that provide no structural support, and frilly molding that overpowers a stunning view of the outside world.
People want to see you. The part of your hair that is visible, the part that has left your skin, is dead matter. Shape and enhance your hair, but don't cling to it. Definitely don't hang your femininity on it. It's really your gaze we're after.