Here is what I'd like you to do. Begin listening to yourself as you've never listened before. Begin to overhear yourself avoiding the topic, changing the subject, holding back, telling little lies (and big ones), being imprecise in your language, being uninteresting even to yourself. And at least once today, when something inside you says, "This is an opportunity to be fierce," stop for a moment, take a deep breath, then come out from behind yourself into the conversation and make it real. Say something that is true for you... It could go well or it could be a little bumpy, but at least you will have taken the plunge. You will have said at least one real thing today...And something will have been set in motion, and you will have grown from that moment.