"Who we are is how we lead....You cannot take people professionally where you are not willing to go personally."
- Brene Brown on the Being Boss Podcast
I'm going to take Brene's advice. My Christmas list this year will be a list of those whose opinions matter. Assemble your team - show up - rise strong. Happy Thanksgiving!
Who inspires you?
My friend and client Emily Ford inspires me. She did something insane recently - she ran the Patagonia 60k Marathon and got the best women's time! She SEEMS like a normal person, a person I totally relate to and hang out with often - but I can't even begin to imagine running that far or that fast!
When interviewed about how she prepared, this was Emily's response:
"I did 4 months of training and ran about 6 days a week. Two of these days would be long runs (about 15 miles), and the rest were shorter (like 6 or 8 miles). I also did cross-fit, and practiced running both flat and hilly routes. I consumed a lot of energy gel and dry pineapple. I tried not to eat too much (and drank almost no alcohol!). The week before I ran, I slept a lot. On D-Day I had chocolate cereal and a little bit of fruit for breakfast. About an hour before the start, I had a protein bar. Then I was ready!"
I honestly had no idea what it took before reading that segment, as much as we talk. It shifted my thinking to find out that she doesn't have some magical edge I don't have. She trained HARD! I don't want to run 60k but sometimes I want to run 4 miles and when I feel sluggish on the second hill, I think of Emily. If she can accomplish so much, I know what I want to accomplish is more than possible, and I commit to the action and run until I get more comfortable. Emily's accomplishment reminds me that it isn't easy for anyone and reassures that at some point even the best runners felt just like me, and it felt like they were plodding along and not getting anywhere much. Then, over time and by sheer commitment, it got easier and the world opened up. I've asked Emily how she does it and she says it's more mental and less physical than most people realize. I think it's the same with any project. If you surround yourself with people doing inspiring things, you'll learn how hard everyone works for what they have and feel more willing to do that work yourself. You'll have higher standards and find yourself achieving more.
I had a great day last week, $1680 services and 1.1 recreate. I told my assistant that it was a record for me and she said she worked for Mary when they did $2500 in a day. I interviewed my assistant about the experience and yep, there was no eating that day. There is always such comfort knowing I wasn't the first down this path, that others in the industry (and in my store!) have done more. It reminds me to stop complaining about what's uncomfortable, commit to doing the work and figure out what I can change about my approach to do better, faster. It still feels like slogging through mud sometimes, even for those at the top. The good news is that once you hit your stride internally, and get over the hurdles in your mind, the rest of you can go way further than you probably know. Collect people who remind you of this daily!
We always say we want things to be different - in our relationships, work, health, whatever - but then we spend our lives locked in comfortable routines that ensure things stay the same.
This quote comes from a short and sweet column about how breaking daily routines can make you more creative. I have a lot of conversations with stylists (many of them much more experienced than myself) who plateau below their desired income because the routines they set up initially to give them a sense of control have held them back in the long run. Routines streamline, but they do so by diminishing the need to look sharp at every step in a process.
In relationships, routines give us a false sense of comfort. People are somewhat uncomfortable until they know what they can expect. Once they fully know what to expect, though, boredom and disillusionment follow quickly. Routines keep things on an even keel...until your client gets bored after 8 years and tries her friend's new stylist.
A little voice deep down is always ready to whisper that we want something better, that we want to believe more is possible. As stylists, our job is to keep reminding clients about that voice and be the one to answer it and validate it - with yet another exciting improvement!
Anything you tend to do automatically deserves a second glance.