The next 30 days are going to pass whether you like it or not, so why not think about something you have always wanted to try and give it a shot?
I did this with Bikram, and it stuck. Knowing there's an end point to the challenge makes you more likely to try something adventurous or difficult. #creativityboost
It became really clear to me that if I couldn't trust my own gut, if I couldn't sort of have an idea that what I needed to have happen, that my vision wasn't the vision that we were following, then we wouldn't be following a vision at all. And that that was the only thing I had to go on was my creative spirit and my vision. And it was also the idea of power isn't power if you don't know you have it. If you don't know you have the power and you're not using it, then you're not powerful at all. And that's a lesson I've learned over and over and over again, I think.
Listen to the Fresh Air interview here.
"In her new memoir, Year of Yes, Rhimes, a self-described introvert, details how confronting her fears allowed her to embrace other aspects of life...."
Over time, being 100% commission-based has changed my relationship with money.
Before doing hair, money was about doing things to buy things. Making more money at a given job meant nicer apartments, nicer cars, nicer clothes, and less worry. It was transactional. It was also something you wanted to be able to anticipate and depend on into the future.
That is not how money works behind the chair.
Money is an *objective* measure of how much *subjective* excitement a hair stylist is building within his or her clientele. Imagine having 300 bosses. They all get to rate you separately; your performance is re-evaluated after every task you complete; and their average thrill-level determines your average paycheck. They don't rate you on a set of technical or even objective criteria, either. There is no sure way to impress across the board. Technical or artistic prowess might help, but their rating ultimately depends on how much you delight them.
The amazing thing is that the more passion and commitment you bring to the chair, the more your income grows - and there is no limit! The intimidating thing is that you need to Bring. It. Every. Day.
Someone recently told me he was thinking of giving up on hair because he couldn't get up to a stable income. This is someone who wants tit-for-tat. He wants to work a little, make a little money...work a little more, make a little more...etc. This industry doesn't work that way, because it is built too directly on face-to-face human relationships. If you want to build a book, you have to commit up front and do nothing halfway. If you want an eventual payoff, you have to forget about a payoff anytime soon and remove that as a factor - because it's holding you back from giving your all. This is not a 9-5 job and it is not a secure job. Your hundreds of bosses can individually fire you whenever they want, for any reason, so you have to hook them again and again over time.
In this rather intense situation, forgetting that money buys things and treating my numbers like grades is how I grow. Grades are tools for learning and that seems less high-pressure than focusing on money as income and the determinant of my quality of life. Every day something reminds me that I'm not entitled to any set income, because every penny comes from creating delight. No amount of technical skill will necessarily secure my future...but I get to spend 40+ hours per week working with my hands, creating art that moves and lives and is on exhibit 24/7, and making people happier with themselves. I focus on all this as my payment, let the fluctuations in my numbers steer me, and trust that with them as my guide I won't end up a starving artist. So far, it's given me a more appreciative and respectful relationship with money than I had in my cushy office job. If it's sometimes less comfortable to see my livelihood fluctuate, there is a truer safety in not taking finances or status for granted.